Creating Your Goddess Group
Welcome Fellow Goddesses and their Lucky Consorts! Lately I’ve noticed that there’s a lot of Goddess talk out there in the world of social media. Fabulous! A good friend sent me a link with the note, “As usual, you’re ahead of the pack.” She said that because I was once “Head Goddess” of my own goddess group back in the late ‘80s and ‘90s. We formed our own tiny band of Goddess Worshiping Divas who believed in the creative force of the Universe. We used a time-honored co-creation technique long before it was a buzz word heard on Oprah. We met once a month, on the beach, out in Malibu, under the full moon. And because it was so much fun, and benefited all of us, I wanted to share it with you all.
So what did I do? And how can it help you?
When I was in my ‘20s, driving a cab in Manhattan, and acting in New York, I discovered a book called, When God Was a Woman, by Merlin Stone. I’d been brought up in one of the warrior, desert religions, as Bob Sopolsky would call the three religions now battling it out. In that world view, God’s a big guy with a beard, who’s never in a good mood. Ever. So as I read about the ancient Goddesses, from what was once called “The Cradle of Civilization,” who worshipped life-giving, life-affirming things like water, plants, the sun and the moon, intuitively, I knew this was better for me and the planet. A seismic shift of my own tectonic plates happened inside of me – it felt like an earthquake.
Now God wasn’t a “Him,” God was a “Her,” just like me. I was a “Her” too! Wow! I was no longer excluded, just because I didn’t have a penis. (Which, dear, darling Dr. Freud, I never wanted.) It made me feel empowered to embrace my own inner Goddess beingness. And because of that, I thought it might help you, too.
In the late ‘80s, in my first years at UCLA Film School, I gathered a group of my friends and led them into a state of “focused concentration,” or a hypnotic trance state. I used a technique I’d studied in acting school — creative visualization. It’s the technique an actor uses to create believable characters, and the same technique a writer uses to create a sensual world on paper.
So once a month, we’d gather out on the beach, under the full moon, with a salty sea breeze brushing our cheeks. We’d sit in a circle, and I would ask my friends to imagine a time in the future, three months, three years, or thirty years or any time in between. It really didn’t matter. Just so that it was a specific time, concrete and infused with sensory imagination. Then we all held hands, and I said a few “Ohms.” I led them down a spiral staircase in their minds, counting down to 23 – focused concentration. Then one by one, sitting on the warm sand, going around our goddess circle, we would give voice to our “Most Wonderful Day,” out loud. All of us would imagine each other’s “perfect day,” and then we’d send it up, up, up, into “Framework Two.” (See: The Nature of Personal Reality, by Jane Roberts, if you want that explained.) I was usually the last one to speak.
My perfect day was always the same, much to the annoyance of my friends. At 41, I was terminally single and so I wanted to find a lover, a partner, and truth be told, I still longed to have a family of my own. So this is what I said:
“It’s a beautiful day in April, and I wake up in my house in Mendocino that looks out over the Pacific. The strong, kind, handsome man next to me pulls me close and tells me how much he loves me and how lucky he is to have me in his life. I feel safe and loved. I reek of sex, and my throat is sore from screaming in ecstasy from the night before.
“The smell of coffee wafts from the kitchen downstairs, and I get up and pick up my beautiful baby girl out of her crib. All three of us look out over the sparking Pacific and I feel thankful. Later on, a helicopter comes to take us to the Academy Awards. I hear my name called out for “Best Screenplay,” and I win! I thank all my friends and family.”
Then under that full moon, we all hold hands again, and we all say: “And we send it up, up, up into “Framework Two, because it is a reality. It is a reality. And so it is.” Then we’d imagine a shiny, magical pink bubble floating upwards!
So I put in everything my own pink bubble I loved and thought I wanted. I love sex, I love coffee, I wanted a lover, I wanted a baby, and I wanted to be successful.
Now, did I ever win an Academy Award? No, but I won five screenwriting awards at UCLA, because the creative energy knew that I liked awards. I went on to write, Love From Both Sides – A True Story of Reincarnation. And now? I’m very successful doing work that I love.
Did I find a handsome, strong husband? Yes, I did. When I was 42, I went out on blind date with a shy, handsome environmental lawyer, who was 49. It seemed as if we’d known each other forever, (and we had!). He asked me to marry him on the fourth date, and I said, “Yes.” And he was, believe it or not, from Mendocino.
Did I ever have that baby girl? No, but I got pregnant with her. Only by then, my husband didn’t want her, and so she left. (For the full story, it’s in my book.)
How can this help you?
First of all, it’s fun. It creates a bond between you and the friends you bring into your circle. And now? It’s so much easier. Back in the ‘80s and ‘90s, when, I was doing it, I had to call each Goddess one by one. Now, you can create a Facebook page, a Meet Up group, or whatever works for you.
The physical process of getting together regularly and expressing out loud to your friends and the Universe what you want, and what you think will make you happy, gives the Universal Mind an idea of what you want. And that makes it easier to attract! It also helps you do the work, because it keeps you enthusiastic and motivated.
Could I have won all those screenwriting awards if I didn’t write the screenplays? No. So you just can’t just “dream and it will happen,” as some “airy-fairy” secrets people seem to think. No, you have to follow through with the work.
When you actively and concretely express to the “all that is” what it is you want out of this amazing incarnation of yours, and then the universe hears, and gives you whatever help it can. It creates an invisible road map for your subconscious.
The full moon comes around every month, and just the feeling of embracing The Divine Female Energy inside will cheer you up! And because you’re happier, your family, husbands and boyfriends will benefit too!
Sending you lots of love,
Stephanie
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Hi Stephanie. Thank you for that. As usual, you radiate love and positivity. I can feel it. 🙂 I really crave connection to others that feel the pull of the universe and who call to it regularly for positive energies. Most people I know aren’t open to the things you’ve taught me. But this is a reminder that the universe is listening… I need to make my wishes known. Xoxo
Thanks, Liliana! Yes, just keep focused on what’s good in your life, and open to the love that’s coming your way! Soon, yes? Welcome your daughter into the world… a new Goddess! Love, S.
Thanks Stephanie! Yes, she is due June 1st… soon to be the first member of my Goddess Group! Xo
You make my world a different..unique .. place.
You are a positive energy force…your atoms are always wiggling
And yes, you and I knew all this way before Oprah was selling, excuse me, telling people about it.
I love you?
Thank you, my darling Alice! How lucky I am to have you in my life! This life and our life as nuns, too.. oh, kind Mother Superior! Glad we didn’t have to that one again! Love you!!
Thanks stephanie, your message was confirmation fir me. I have been called to start s group. I set up a meet up last week and 2 out of 10 confirmed showed up. I thought about giving up. You have inspired me to keep trying. I see a large gathering where I can make a difference. I believe people are hungry to make a shift in consciousness. I will schedule the next meet up on the full moon. Thanks again for your words of inspiration. You rock!
Great, Diane! I’ll explain it in detail when I see you! Soon! xo Stephanie