We’re all “hypnotized” by the movies and TV into thinking that falling in love will solve all our problems. Every Sixties bubble-gum song assures us that love will make us happy, and that we will live happily ever after. In truth, sometimes falling in love makes lives even more complicated, because we have to take another person’s wants, desires, friends and families and integrate them into our own constellation of wants, desires, needs, families and friends. And that’s when the problems begin, and love either gets stronger or it simply dies. Our own personalities scream loudly that it’s just not worth working hard for. He or she is just too much bother! Our own “inner three-year-old” screams at us that “If this were right, there will be no conflicts! Everything would be perfect!” So we pick up our Tinker Toys, and head off to seek the next Mr. Right, or Miss Perfect, and the process continues again.
People come to me all the time to find their “true soul-mate.” When I was thinking about writing something about love, so many of my client’s lives and past lives popped into my mind, because I see so many couples who are married or in relationships now, and were also connected in past lives. One client, Brad, stood out, because he came to me when he was conflicted about what he wanted to do with a girl he was thinking of marrying.
Handsome, successful, and athletic Brad was nearing 40, and he owned his own company. Super smart, and extremely well educated, he’d fallen in love with Julie, 28, who was a fitness instructor, and the single mother of two small children. Her children’s father, an aging, failed rocker, presented nothing but future problems. Brad loved Julie, but had issues with her angry six-year-old son, and wondered if he could make it work out.
When he “went back in time,” he saw himself as a Viking named Olin, who is in love with a woman he recognizes as Julie. She likes Olin, but when another man comes into the scene, Olin won’t fight for his woman. He lets her go off with the other man. Because of that, there’s so much pent up anger and rage that he goes on killing “raid” to express it. He’s killed in that raid with an axe to his chest. The soul lesson he had to learn in that lifetime hit him like a hammer, and he began to cry. “I ran away from love, and vented my anger elsewhere. Being angry is futile.”
Then he saw another lifetime where he fought for Julie this time. They were Eskimos, and he sees that her daughter in this lifetime, Angie, is their own daughter in that lifetime – and he adores her. Julie’s son in this lifetime, Jim, is also in that lifetime, only he’s an angry fellow tribesman. Maybe a former suitor of Julie’s. But in that lifetime, Brad is a leader in his tribe, and he leads the tribe through traumatic times. When he dies, both Julie and Angie are at his side, and he feels an incredible feeling of love, even though war rages just outside. His soul lesson for that lifetime was “to create a bubble of love even while life and the outside world happens, because there will always be trauma and challenges. You can’t stop the challenges, but you can create a bubble of love around your heart, with loved ones, to help insulate you from the trouble.”
He recognized his soul’s purpose as “The Protector,” and it made him proud and happy. He came out of that session and went home and he asked Julie to marry him that night. They were married two years ago, and now they have a beautiful baby daughter! And all because Brad owned his warrior self and got brave enough to open to love.
We’re all here to love unconditionally, and it’s not always easy. But if you can be brave like Brad and overcome your own fears, you too can create that bubble of healing love.
Happy Valentine’s Day!