Why Are You Afraid To Fall In Love?

How Past Life Regression Can Find The Answer!

Here’s the follow up to last week. This is the other reason I don’t do “hit and run regressions,” is because it takes time to get to the heart of the problem. Falling in love scares everyone because when you love someone, you lose control. And you can get hurt. And we’re all control freaks. Sometimes that need for control keeps you too vigilant to “let go.” It takes courage to fall in love.

A few years ago, when Jordon, a short, sexy, forty-year-old doctor called me for help, I wasn’t surprised. I’ve helped more than a few medical doctors with problems that their classical medical training couldn’t solve. (Actually, just last week I asked a client who is a psychiatrist, what she learned about sexuality in medical school. “Absolutely nothing!” she said. Think about that. Wow!)

Anyway, Jordan was beside himself, because he’d been in a long-term relationship with Jenny, a feisty, free-spirited, young hairdresser, who had no desire to “better herself,” like he encourages her to do constantly. She loved what she did for a living, and had no desire to be changed by his needs.

On his part, because he was from a conservative Middle Eastern, well-to-do background, he felt embarrassed when he was out with her in public. His friends continually assured him that “he could do better,” and his mother wasn’t pleased with the match. Because of all that, Jordan began to treat Jenny with disrespect. When Jenny had the courage to stand up to him and leave him cold, it shook him to his core. After all, wasn’t he a doctor? Didn’t every girl want a doctor?

Because he is such a good man, he knew in his heart that he had never really loved her. He realized that he had kept himself from loving her and that it wasn’t the first time he’d kept himself aloof in a relationship.

“Why am I so afraid to love,” he asked.

The first regression we did, his OCD, and control issues stopped him from going deep enough into the hypnotic trance — the focused concentration — that’s necessary to achieve good results. My own teacher, Brian Weiss, a psychiatrist, spent almost three months trying “to get in,” before he got the results he wanted. This the other reason I don’t do “hit and run” regressions. People can’t expect to walk into a stranger’s office and feel relaxed enough or safe enough to “relinquish control.”

On Jordan’s second regression, his fifth session, he found the answer to his question. When he went through the door in his mind that read: Recent Times, I said, “Look at your feet. Are you male or female?”

“Male. I have really expensive shoes. I’m so tall! Wow! I’m in my office, high above New York City. I’m a very powerful newspaper publisher. I’m really blond and so tall!”

I asked him to look out his window and get an idea of the era, or the year.

“It’s the late 40s,” he said. “I can tell by the cars.”

I took him back in time to his childhood, and he saw himself as a Nebraska farm boy, who came from a loving but struggling family. He recounted his high school career as an athlete, and then he got a scholarship to Princeton. He saw his wartime experience, and then we were back to where we began. I asked him to look at his desk, and see if he had any pictures on it.

“My wife! Oh, my wife! She’s amazing! I love her so much.” So I took him home to her, and he smiled from ear to ear as his totally devoted, opinionated, gorgeous wife greeted him in a rushed, good-natured flurry. He was late, as usual, and they were due at a charity event. But he kept smiling as she tied his bow-tie, and then his seven-year-old son came in.

“Do you recognize your son? Anyone, you know in this life?”

“Yes! He’s my best friend now! My god, we’re such a happy family. She’s got both of us wrapped around her little finger, and we let her, we love it!”

We went “forward in time” to the events of that life; his son got married. He had trouble at the paper, and when he saw the birth of a granddaughter. “Do you recognize her as anyone from this lifetime?”

“It’s Jenny!” (The hairdresser from this lifetime.) “Weird!”

I moved to the next pivotal experience. And he started breathing fast. “I’m at Belleview Hospital – Emergency room. My wife’s collapsed. Where are all the fucking doctors?” It was too late. His wife died in his arms there. And as that happened, Jordan ripped at his button-down shirt as if to tear out his own heart. His heart broke open completely.

I said, “Float above the pain.” But he didn’t. Jordan needed to stay there, watching the medics take away his wife. When we went forward in time, he saw that he lived out the rest of that life as a loving father and grandfather, and then he died surrounded by his loving family. When he came back to room awareness, he understood the source of his resistance to letting go and falling in love. He knew that he was terrified of love and afraid to be in that much pain again.

And he understood that to be able to open his heart to love; he would need to be braver. Open to his courageous self and his loving self. That was his journey and the purpose for this lifetime. To be bold and to open to love.

If you have a resistance to love or need to find courage, please give me a call. Past Life Regression, Awareness Therapy, and Hypnotherapy can help unlock the mystery of why you do what you do!

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Sending you love,

Stephanie